Log in

No account? Create an account
14 June 2018 @ 09:51 am
21 years ago today, I was married to my Lovely Tigress, Renee, in an outdoor ceremony, under an impromptu tent because of a light rain, in the presence of our families and close friends.
09 May 2018 @ 01:23 pm
I was scared we weren't going to get spring, but that it was going to go from winter right into summer. But at least here in Reston Virginia, it is a beautiful spring day out there, currently 78° at near the hottest part of the day.

My workmate is out all week, so I'm here in this big room all by myself. I had to work this past Saturday on a huge proposal, and there's been a good amount of work since then that's needed my expertise.

I'll be staying in town again tonight, sleeping on the couch of the same terrific red panda who lives and works all within a mile and a half of here. I stopped by Martin's on the way to work to pick up muffins for us. His big black kitty doesn't care much for muffin day. He's more into bagel day, because that means he gets his small ration of cream cheese--his reward for being a cat.

I just mailed out Mother's Day cards this morning on the way to work. The next time Renee and I are able to visit the parental units is Father's Day weekend in the middle of June.

How has your days been? Keeping it together lately?
02 April 2018 @ 05:08 am
(cross-posted from Rainbow Ark FA) I hope everyone had a nice holiday weekend with family or friends. We got back home after 9 last night.

It was our first full night away from home since we got our new kitty, Kiki, but she did well. It looks like the new automatic kibble dispenser worked just fine. We were a little worried because once we were testing it a week ago, it took her no time to figure out how to stick her paw up the chute and turn the flippers to get more food to drop. But it looks as though she didn't cheat too much while we were away.

We stayed with Renee's parents this time, and it was good to see everyone again. After breakfast yesterday morning, we got in the car to see my parents up the road. They're doing well for their age. Dad is the caregiver for my mom, but he's hyper aware of his own health, hoping to take care of her for as long as he is able, but he's of course worried about her if something were to happen to him. I wish we didn't live 150 miles away, and we have a mortgage we're stuck with -- possibly no longer underwater anymore, but up here near northern Virginia is where my job is, and it my age, it's not like I could just relocate and find any one of a dozen places hiring 59 year olds.

Life is complicated at times. It's nothing new for many of you too. We just do what we can and try to encourage discussion about difficult decisions about things while there is opportunity to discuss.

So yeah, at Renee's we caught up with birthdays, had a nice meal prepared by her mom and everyone took some food home with them. Now early Monday morning, I'm getting ready for work. It's going to be a stay-over night tonight because of my long commute. There's a wonderful Panda fur who lives and works just up the street from where I work, who has a comfy couch. I just bring muffins or bagels to share and he's good. It's also a joy to watch his fursuit come together as he has time in the evenings to work on it.

Cheers everyone. Be good.
14 March 2018 @ 09:06 pm
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (CNN)With the Lunar New Year round the corner, Chinese around the world are preparing to welcome the Year of the Dog.
But in Malaysia, where people of ethnic Chinese descent make up almost a quarter of the population, images of the dog have been omitted from Lunar New Year decorations and merchandise for fear of offending the country's Muslim majority.


Nothing against Muslims, just against people who are offended a little too easily.
18 January 2018 @ 12:44 pm
Hello friends. I hope every one of you are enduring and finding times of rest and renewal in life.

I've been thinking and wondering lately about how good of an ally I can continue to be for those here who have belief in God or gods, or who are religious, or spiritual, or who live by faith. Sometimes I wonder if my mere presence here might seem to be a threat to the combined Christian and LGBT safe zone that we established here in early 2004, inviting everyone to live authentically and believe how they have chosen without trying to give up one aspect or the other.

It feels important for me to say that I will never ridicule someone here for their faith. I know first hand and remember how real it all seems, and how much of an individual's life that it all can become: the feeling when you pray, or worship in song, or receive what appears to be an answer to prayer--I've had many instances. I'm not trying to disprove any of that. I received Jesus as my Lord and Savior in the mid 70's and for decades after, I was very much a believer with everything the term entails and attended a variety of different churches and teachings including Methodist, Assembly Of God, non-denominational word of faith churches, Foursquare, and others.

From my new perspective after religion, While remembering what I used to believe, there are aspects that I wish more religious people would consider as they go through life.

Firstly, I wish religious folk would consider the possibility that maybe this life we have right now is maybe all that we have, and not simply a weigh station on our way to eternity. It's okay to believe there's a Heaven, or reincarnation, or some other form of afterlife as your faith teaches, as long as you realize we don't actually have any physical evidence here that one exists in the exact way that your religious faith says it does. It might, but don't let the 'might be' prevent you from living the life you have, in the moment, at the present time, to the very fullest that you're able.

Secondly, learn to forgive--not in the sense of someone who hurt you should be free to hurt you again. This isn't about unearned trust or not protecting yourself from an abusive person. I mean in terms of letting go of your anger. It's been said that holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. That constant seething you feel toward the other is only hurting you. Don't let them have that control over your life and steal your joy--and as expressed in the paragraph before, life is finite and may be all we have.

There is probably a third, fourth, and fifth, but those can be for another time, or please add your own in the comments here for our benefit.
23 December 2017 @ 10:07 am
Joyous Yule, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays.

I'm off work until the 2nd. Renee is also off work but due to a slow drip of layoffs in her company which finally caught up with her a little over a week ago. She'll be receiving unemployment and she has a couple of leads, but for right now we're just together to enjoy the Holidays.

We went out and saw Star Wars yesterday, then made a donation of items to Goodwill. We'll finish decorating the tree today. On Christmas, we'll put a nice roast in the crock pot, and probably have a cozy fire with a tiny bit of snow in the forecast.

We're both still feeling some effects of not having our precious Bijoux with us at this time. We know it won't be long before we adopt again. We didn't realize until after she was gone, how much our little kitty made this feel like a family.

Let's all hope for a better year in 2018. I know this one's been a rough one for many.

02 December 2017 @ 09:19 am
We're taking our beloved cat, Bijoux in to a vet in 15 minutes from now to help her pass in peace. A week ago she was diagnosed with gastric lymphoma and were told she may have from 4 to at most 8 weeks. But with her eating a little less every day and for the first time this morning, unable to take the pill pocket which held her daily anti-nausea med, and beginning last night, noticing her using new muscles to help her breathe, it's time, before she really becomes uncomfortable.

We had a second appointment we were hoping would work out, for a person to come to our home on Monday at 2PM, to where she could pass in familiar surroundings. But to make her wait until then would do more for us than it would for her. So we're going with the first option, which means putting her back in the carrier that I really didn't want to use again, and put her in the car again for a 30 mile trek. But hopefully everything will work out and it won't be too stressful.

All assembled who have pets, give them an extra hug or scritch from me today and tell them how much you love them. Don't forsake the many good opportunities you have to spend quality time together.
19 November 2017 @ 01:21 pm
fennec turkey
18 November 2017 @ 08:25 pm
Hey critters and crew. I just wanted to check in since it had been awhile, and with a hope that you're all keeping warm as seasonal temperatures continue to fall with winter approaching.

I had seen a tweet go by as a warning to those attending MFF this year, that there is a particularly nasty form of walking pneumonia in and around Chicago. It might be a good time now to take measures to boost your immune system with whatever you normally do. It's never too late to get a flu shot too. Renee and I have ours. It's usually free if you work it right with your insurance, and/or in-store offers from places like Target or CVS. Just wanted to mention that.

Looking at the state of our Union, we're all hoping that every single safeguard put into place to protect the liberties of LGBT people by the Obama administration isn't going to be completely undone by the current mess. I've been thinking about how safe everything felt just 18 or so months ago, and the fear is that reversal of the advances we've been enjoying are going to force many back into the closet just to keep jobs or to keep from being harassed or worse, from neighbors or random people. But the progressive candidates who were recently elected shows that not all ground will be lost as there has been a new and strengthening fight against trumpism around the country. I think about many of you and I wonder how you're doing. I know a lot of times the best defense is in just going about your lives and not giving the darkness space in your life, having faith in that long arc of justice described by MLK.

I hope you all have a safe and fun-filled holiday season. Check in and let us know how you're doing.
27 October 2017 @ 12:03 pm

I think we all could use a song like this once in a while.
Current Mood: calmcalm
14 October 2017 @ 11:02 am
So yeah, trumpeta attended and apparently us LGBT+ peoples aren't shit to him and his basket of deplorables. This country used to be cool because it was becoming more inclusive. Now it's cool to be a fuckin' asshole to your fellow man and hide behind "religion". I'm sick and tired of the bullshit, and I bet all of you are as well.

He recently eliminated the subsidies for ACA insurers - like a savage, I might add. That'll leave lots of people at a disadvantage. Not to mention that's gonna destablize the healthcare infrastructure moreso than it already was. Possibly to the point of collapse, but I digress as that's another topic entirely.

What more can he do to make everyone's life (the ones not in his little basket, of course) shit? Just wait until next week I guess. It seems that every week he pulls some crap that manages to rent the collective sanity of this country more and more. This tyrant is after our asses. What the hell are we gonna do about it?

Remember ACT UP's famous chant? "Silence equals death!" So what is there to do? I've heard as recently as when I was 17, a little while ago, haha. That claims were made that we LGBT+ people only made up 1-2% of the population, but I think that's ridiculous, we're everywhere! Let's add in our allies, suddenly we have even more people on our side.

More Americans now more support same-sex marriage, and SCOTUS made that a grand reality. Will that change with the new justice what's-his-face? Perhaps. We can't let ourselves be treated like second-class citizens. We have to do something productive and positive. We can't let trumpeta and his cronies take away our humanity piece-by-piece.

And please don't attack me over this. I'm just some guy who just doesn't want to be shoved back into the closet. Closets are for clothes, not people.
05 October 2017 @ 02:08 pm

"Prayer For Danny is a touching song about a young man abandoned by his family and friends. It's just a prayer that he'll hang onto his best friend despite the adversity. Many thanks to Chris & Lance"

Inspired by the coming-of-age story of Daniel - the main character of Associated Student Bodies - this song is by Hali, from 2001. Downloaded from a snapshot of FMF (12/10/2008) via archive.org.
Current Mood: contentcontent
04 October 2017 @ 10:25 am
I doubt many of you remember, but I made a post here a few months ago. It just so happens that I had deleted it. And I got some indirect grief because of it. Which was deserved, because this community needs things preserved for posterity's sake. I am sorry for that. I would like to make it known - in that time - I was going through a lot.

Upon being denied graduation from my college in October 2016 - which is still getting sorted out - I sank into a depression. The depression got worse in January, it was cold, the sun shone only little then. In February I thought I met the man of my dreams. But depression conspired against me and drove him away from me. It got even worse. By April the days all blended together in a blur and I can't recall anything from that month.

It was as if I wasn't even there.

I even left RainbowArk after I'd done that little post, then deleted it. I couldn't handle anyone being mad at me then, it just compounded my feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.

I managed to make a turn around in May, and I kept making an effort to steer my life in a positive direction because I'd had enough. I wanted to crawl out of the hole. And day-by-day it was a battle. There were days where a step forward was met with two steps back. I managed to keep up to today where I'm feeling better than ever - this very month when that huge depressive episode had started.

That's why I'm back here, I'm well again.
A little tidbit that might make LiveJournal a whole helluva lot more attractive considering their lack of a RL name mandate...

WASHINGTON - Federal officials are planning to collect social media information on all immigrants, including permanent residents and naturalized citizens, a move that has alarmed lawyers and privacy groups worried about how the information will be used.

The Department of Homeland Security published the new rule in the Federal Register last week, saying it wants to include "social media handles, aliases, associated identifiable information, and search results" as part of people's immigration file. The new requirement takes effect Oct. 18.